just wanted to get this off my chest.
There are times that I doubted my capabilities as a mother.
Sometimes, when my kids do things that people think are bad, I think “masama ba akong ina? eto ba nakikita ng mga anak ko sa kin? di ko ba sila napapalaki ng maayos?”
And there are times that things happen to my children, and my worries dissolve into nothingness.
My daughter was hurting. Hurting and I never noticed, until it was not yet too late, but nearing it’s life-changing status.
Her bestfriend of 5 years “betrayed” her friendship. And what’s worse is I, at first, went along with all the lies.
I noticed it when Anea was going with a different circle. When I fetched her from school, Anea and her exbff (let’s call her this for now) do not go home together anymore. I asked her why, and she said “kasi sabi mo lilipat na ko ng school, so ngayon pa lang, iiwas na ko.”
A fool of a mother will sort of believe it. And I am that.
Last Saturday was their Oral Examinations. They have this during the last quarter (all 5 honor students), and also a written exam, to gauge i think, their skills. or whatever. Anyway, her exbff’s mother talked to me.
Napapansin ko daw ba. I said yes, but I will talk to Anea after the exam. But the exbff wanted to talk to me, so I did. She told me she didn’t know why Anea was mad at her. If it was because of this_guy (let’s call him this for now), then sabi niya… hindi daw niya yun boyfriend. this_guy has been Anea’s crush for 2 years now. and this_guy knows it, and exbff knows it, too.
Sabi pa niya, eh ano naman daw kung crush siya ni this_guy eh hindi naman daw bf ni Anea yun. Tsaka if ever manligaw daw si this_guy sa kanya, hindi daw niya sasagutin kasi nga crush yun ni Anea.
When Anea came, I made them talk. In front of me, at first. I facilitated it. Anea said, the reason she was mad at exbff was because exbff was beginning to be mayabang. Because exbff is 1st honor. exbff wanted Anea to congratulate her then, and Anea wasn’t able to, but exbff was already sending GMs about it. And then she questioned why Anea was Best in CLE when her grade is higher (nagkamali ang pagpost ng grade because Anea’s grade was higher).
Came Sunday, I pestered Anea into telling me what the truth was. Yun pala, exbff was lying to my face. Anea knows for a fact that exbff is now this_guy’s gf. Walang decency ang dalawa to tell Anea kasi daw baka magalit.
Hindi pala totoo kay exbff ang rule #1 ng magbestfriend: Walang taluhan ng crush/bf.
With Anea, wala yung makuha niya si this_guy. What pisses Anea of was yung betrayal and lies. Nun Saturday pala, she was waiting for exbff to tell her honestly. Eh nag-lie pa din ang hitad.
What’s more, is that this_guy texts Anea, he even went here at home one time without a reason except na napadaan lang daw siya. He even calls my daughter Bunso. May pet name pa, amp.
Ergo, I was pissed at what happened. Not just with exbff, this_guy, and exbff’s mother, but with me, too. I should’ve not agreed with the mother that Anea’s new friends are bad influences, and that yes, Anea has changed.
If I only knew what was the truth, I could’ve told her to go talk to her daughter rather than me. exbff lied to her mother, to the expense of my daughter. Irritating as hell!
And now, nagpapacute si exbff, texting everyone that she deserves a second chance. Duh with a capital “uh”. Alam na ng lahat yung ginawa niya, and it was not Anea who told everyone. It was the other way around. Everyone told Anea! Almost everyone is on Anea’s side now. Lucky for exbff malapit na matapos ang school year. Sandaling panahon na lang niya titiisin ang mga tsismis ng mga schoolmates nila.
Anea made me promise not to talk to exbff’s mother anymore… gusto ko kasi talaga… maipamukha sa kanya na yung mga pinagsasabi niya sa kin nun sabado is a bunch of crap. at yung anak niya eh nagsinungaling sa kanya.
pero, anea, wiser beyond her years, wanted no more trouble. Tsaka tama lang na hindi na ko makialam dun. Nasali lang naman ako dun kasi kinausap ako nun nanay eh. at nagsinungaling sa kin yung exbff.
Pero I also told Anea that hindi ako magsasalita… unless they start another issue about my daughter. Lalo na pag may narinig na naman ako na hindi maganda about her na hindi naman totoo. Ggyerahin ko na talaga sila. LOL.
So, now, I am going to start fetching Anea again from school. I just wanna be there for her. Lalo na baka kung ano na namang kasinungalingan ang sabihin nitong exbff na to sa nanay niya. Eh ang nanay niya, known for being sugudera. Dapat lang eh andun ako kung sakaling sugurin niya anak ko. Tingnan lang natin.
Sabi ko nga, taena, they messed with the wrong mother-daughter tag team.
*tawang mahjongera*
